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One of the things that has helped me navigate through some of the harshest and most difficult challenges in life was and is my innate magnetism to joy and humor – so that I WILL smile and LAUGH... I have laughed a LOT in my life and ironically, I have even found ways to look back on some pretty harsh and challenging times, and laugh at some things that were ‘no laughing matter’ at the time I was going through it... One of the main reasons why I am so very close to my sister, nieces and nephews and certain cousins is because we rarely ever part ways without finding laughter and humor in something, be it a situation or ourselves. We literally and figuratively tickle one another’s funny bones like no other and this reinforces our bond and closeness.
Many of us are walking around too uptight, on edge, fearful, worried and just too pessimistic. Starting today, I challenge all who read this forum to begin finding ways to see humor in yourselves and others… Learn to just LET GO and LAUGH! Or better yet, go to a comedy store or rent a DVD of some good comedians and JUST LAUGH! Be like a child and play with the children in your life, as if you were one of them and JUST LAUGH. After all, laughter is and will always be one of our greatest natural medicines and I have provided a great article below, that breaks down the mechanics as to why the aforementioned statement is a proven fact.
Although I have never been in love, I have had very intense crushes… My very first ‘intense’ crush was with a young lady who used to sit next to me in my English class when I was in senior high school; 10th grade. The young lady who I had a serious crush on, name is Bernadette and she was very down-to-earth, smart, beautiful (both inside and out) and adorable. Bernadette was pretty popular for the very reasons that I had previously listed… I used to think about her all of the time; wondering what she was doing at home or at any moment I would think of her. I would literally feel a certain kind of ‘joy’ whenever I would think about her and whenever she would come around… She seemed ‘unreal’ and ‘heavenly’ to me… Whenever I was next to her, I would feel joy but some serious nervousness at the same time. I would literally start sweating; sweaty palms and all, lol! I remember being so shy and insecure, that I couldn’t speak directly to her most of the time. After a lot of thought and consideration; a day had come when I had decided that I would write her and ask her out on a date. Now mind you, I gave her this letter in class as she sat right next to me,(yes, I was that shy and insecure, lol)... Anyway, she wrote me back and said that she would go out with me but only after I would go to church with her… Now, although I wasn’t very confident in who I was in the field of dating and relationships as a person -- I was pretty confident in my position on religion and church and quite frankly, I wasn’t ‘feeling’ it BUT, I was so enamored by Bernadette, I really, really considered accepting religion again, just to be near her… Well, to make a long story short, I never got to go to church with her and we never went out on a date. Somewhere not long after I had expressed an interest in her, I realized and accepted the fact that she wasn’t attracted to me in the same way that I was attracted to her. Nonetheless, she will always be my very first ‘intense’ crush! Indeed, without a doubt, if I had pursued and she had reciprocated my intention and interest – she would have definitely been my very first love.
Now that I have briefly shared my story in this regard, I am curious – who was your very first crush or your first love and what magnetically created this attraction for you?
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